chaohuang123的部落格

明天要出門了, 我的新地址 是 http://tw.myblog.yahoo.com/chaohuang123
減重的題材慢慢少了﹐我想多寫些 移民留學的事情
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人真的不能沒有夢想﹐
到達 175 以後心防明顯的低落下來﹐吃的也多了﹐卡路里也沒抓得那麼緊
結果就是 。。。。有些反彈的感覺

下面是我兩個月以前寫的﹐現在發表時機正好
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這世界上只有兩種人


一種人要
一種人不要



有的人就是要 -
蘇麗文就是要 - 我佩服她
到最後的關鍵就是你要不要﹐要的夠不夠
要的夠﹐你就會成功

但是。。。。。。
如果我就是找不到那個“要”的原動力呢﹖

有一個辦法

有一個聽說是 NLP 大師 Richard Bandler 的真實故事
英文原文在最後面﹐如果你(妳)能看最好﹐直接可以感受到那個震撼
過幾天我會把它翻譯出來 (要到新地方去看了)


我做過類似的事情。。。
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SAN JOSE MERCURY NEWS 轉載自美國加州聖荷西水星報
WEST MAGAZINE SECTION
SUNDAY, NOV 8, 1987
Mind Over Murder

"I'm gonna play some mind games with you in this seminar, because
the brain is my favorite toy."
-- Richard Bandler, Using Your Brain For A Change

Richard Bandler was talking about motivation and how people's
attitudes could be changed through therapy. This went to the
heart of Neurolinguistic Programming, the controversial discipline
he co-founded 10 years before. NLP, a mixture of hypnosis and
linguistics, studied how people influence eachother in
subconscious ways.
The idea was that covert manipulation could be learned
and applied with beneficial results.

Psychotherapists had called it a dangerous form of mind control,
but they couldn't get to the seminars fast enough.
Neither could doctors, lawyers,corporate executives, salespeople,
anyone who thought a little manipulation could go a long way.

So on this day in 1983, about fifteen therapists were sitting in
their rented chairs, and Bandler was observing that many attitudes
are thought to be hard to change. Most of us, for example, avoid
doing certain tasks, because we associate them with anxiety or
discomfort, and we can't imagine feeling any other way.
He asked for personal examples from the group. A male therapist
offered one. "What would make you do this behavior willingly?" Bandler asked.
"Absolutely nothing," the man said. Was he sure? The man looked sure.
"Well, a small-caliber handgun might do the job,"
he offered flippingly. Bandler reached into a pocket
and whipped out a Derringer. "Would this do?" He waved
the gun in the man's face. "Do you want to change now?"
When he saw the gun, the therapist went into "deep panic."
The incident was so embarrassing that even now, four years later,
he agrees to discuss it only on condition of anonyminity,
so we'll call him Dave.

"When I saw the gun," Dave says, "I knew he wasn't going to use it,
but I did not know for sure that absolutely he wouldn't."
Bandler stared at him. "You don't think I'm going to use this, do you?" he said.
He jacked up the gun and walked closer. "Are you sure I won't use it?"
Then he walked away.

Bandler kept this up for perhaps ten minutes, walking back and forth.
Every time he walked away, Dave would "intellectualize and associate."
Every time Bandler came closer, Dave almost "bleeped in my pants
and ran out of the room." Dave swung back and forth between
the two states of mind helpless under Bandler's spell.

Others in the room were terrified. There was no one taking a breath,
says one observer. When it was over, Dave says, he vowed never to
use such a technique on his own patients, it was far too aggressive.
But a few months later, his attitude toward the task he'd mentioned
to Bandler underwent a dramatic and positive shift. To this day,
NLP trainers call the incident one of Bandler's most delicate and
brilliant pieces of work.

"What was so funny," Dave says, "is that I made the suggestion myself.
I gave him the ammunition. I guess there was a part of me that said
it's time to work on this, but I never in God's World expected him
to have a gun in his pocket. Frankly, the man still makes me anxious
when I get around him."
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